A: The primary way that you can do this is to seek God’s will through prayer and fasting. There is a guide for 21 Days of Prayer and Fasting above that we would encourage you to use. We also would invite you to engage the other resources on this site in your goal of both identifying and pursuing your one. You may not have a heavenly voice tell you “_____ is your one!”, but pay attention to who comes to mind most frequently, as well as who your heart breaks the most for—that may very well be your one. In the end, there isn’t a ‘wrong’ person to pray for who doesn’t yet know Jesus. What is most important is that there is someone you are seeking out.

A: Start with prayer and never stop praying for your one. God is the one who does the work, so don’t stop asking Him to change hearts and give you opportunities to partner with what He wants to do.

A: Don’t be weird! Just be yourself. Be genuine and genuinely care.

A: This is not a sales pitch. Asking good questions and listening well to someone will be more effective than the best persuasive pitch or argument. Be curious. But also, be prepared with answers when they ask you questions about the faith you have.

A: Constantly be asking how you can love and serve your one well. Treat them as you would a beloved family member or close friend. If they feel loved by you, then they will be more open to the love of God.

A: Avoid texting and messaging important conversations whenever possible. Relationships are best forged in person, and often around a table. Don’t let technology be a crutch to hide behind the vulnerability of in-person conversations (if your one isn’t local then consider phone calls and video conversations in addition to the necessity of digital messaging).

A: Use simple language when sharing about Jesus. Don’t use big Christian-ese words that are confusing.

A: Your story is a key tool in introducing someone to Jesus. With that in mind, it’s important to have reflected on how Jesus has changed your life so that you can share that with others. We recommend starting with a simple tool called BEFORE, BUT, BECAUSE, which will help you articulate your life before Jesus, but then how Jesus broke into your life, and because of that love, what life has been like since then. You can find it above.

A: Don’t make this harder than it needs to be. Share how meaningful church is to you and ask if they would be interested in joining you. This year, we have the following dates set aside as One Life Sundays—put them here?—but every Sunday is a great chance to invite and bring your one with you. You could ask them if they’ve ever been to church growing up or are interested in spiritual things, and then follow that conversation and see if there is an opening for a specific invitation. The worst they could say is ‘no.’ It is also important to understand that not everyone’s next step is to come to church. They may need to develop a meaningful relationship with you or other Christians before ever considering actually entering a church building. If that happens, remember that church isn’t a building, it is the people of God—which means that YOU may be the one to share Jesus with them with both your words and actions.

A: Most likely, it will mean you taking a risk in boldness to share your story or inviting them to church. It’s as simple as that. People are almost always more receptive to someone they have started to get to know and have begun to trust. While there are sometimes specific opportune moments that God puts in your path, don’t overthink it!. It is easy to use ‘patience’ or waiting for the ‘right moment’ as a cover for disobedience out of fear. But the Holy Spirit will meet you in your fear or weakness, simply trust and follow in obedience and you will be astounded by what God will do.

A: Being a witness for Christ is not about having all the right answers, neither is it necessarily about how you feel. That’s where your story and your own transformational experience with Jesus is your best tool. If you feel unqualified, join the club! Jesus’ disciples were described as ‘uneducated and ordinary’ (Acts 4:13). It is 100% okay to say “I don’t know,” but I would love to help you find an answer to that!” Most people don’t come to Jesus because of superior intellect, they come to know Him because someone who cares is willing to walk alongside them.

A: If you take the leap of faith to actually share Jesus or invite someone to church, there is no such thing as failure. In the eyes of Christ, you have been obedient and that is enough. However, even a ‘no’ now is often the next step on someone’s journey to Jesus later. And even in failure, you can learn and grow. Very few people are good at something the first time they do it, and the invitation that follows any perceived ‘failure’ is simply continued faithfulness. Keep praying. Keep looking for opportunities. Keep serving. Keep sharing. Keep inviting. Keep loving. Let God handle the rest.

A: First off…. INCREDIBLE! Praise God that someone met Jesus or took the step of faith and came to a church gathering. However, if you thought your job was done, it is actually just the beginning! We are called to make disciples and teach them to obey what Jesus’ commands, which is an ongoing journey. Who do you think is the best person to walk alongside them—a church staff member who has never met them, or someone who already has an established relationship with them and introduced them to Christ? I think you know the answer: it’s YOU. Of course, we’re here to help! It is also always a good idea to connect with them after their first visit to church—go to lunch with them or have them over for dinner. Continue investing into the relationship. Continue to be there for them when more questions or next steps come.